One year into marriage and you would think that my husband would get the hint. I love having flowers on our dining room table so I would drop very clear hints that I wanted him to buy flowers to belong on the table. My hints were somewhere along the lines of “Can you pick something up on your way home from work to fill this vase,” “When was the last time you got me flowers,” “I wish this table had some pretty flowers” and you can imagine other hints dropped! But nothing I said worked. I never got flowers.
When I started to get frustrated with Adam when he did not pick up any of the signals, I quickly realized something. Adam does so much for me and is so sweet to me every single day of my life, even when I don’t deserve it. I realized that I was the one who like flowers on the table. I did not like that Adam got them for the me. I would really not care who in the world gave me flowers to put on my dining room table! It was something that brought ME joy. Eating at the table with fresh cut flowers made ME happy. Seeing bright colorful flowers on the table brought a smile to MY face.
I was expecting something from Adam when it was something simply for ME. Why do we so naturally find ourselves in this rut? Why do we want something, and do everything possible to get it, except just do it for ourselves? We make excuses. We wait for someone else to do it for us. We get frustrated when other people aren’t fully focused on what we want.
This is my call to all ladies:
1. Know what you want.
2. Stop asking or waiting for other people to care about what is important to you.
3. Do everything possible to make it happen for yourself!
No matter if it is as simple as buying yourself flowers, accomplishing your small daily tasks or achieving your biggest life dreams. Girl, buy your own flowers.
Keep your head up high and your words filled with love,
Your keeping it real friend, Colleen Howard
Great lesson on worrying only about things you can control.